Fate vs Destiny Part Three

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By the time the book and movie, The Secret, came out in 2006, I had been a student of metaphysics for quite some time. I instinctively knew that there was a lot missing from the rabid promotion of “The Law of Attraction” and was angry that this half-baked primer on metaphysics would capture the masses hook, line, and sinker.

“The law of attraction” states that positive energy attracts positive things into your life, governs your thinking and actions, and, by employing it, you can use the power of positive thinking to achieve anything you can imagine.

Now a person would’ve had to attend a traveling carnival in the late 19th and early 20th centuries to get this kind of pie-in-the-sky, across-the-board guarantee. And it would be coming straight from the mouth of the tent hosting the snake oil salesman himself.

Is positive thinking a good thing? Sure. Is positive action-taking a good thing? Yes, of course. But that’s not necessarily going to happen because of positive thinking. Quick personal example: several months back, I was locked in deep physical and mental lethargy and my exercise regime was essentially kaput.

I was sitting on the couch thinking, “I’m never going to want to get up off this couch,” and the next action I took was getting up off the couch, putting on my bathing suit, and going to the pool. Now that’s an example of a negative thought spawning a positive action.

Is rooting out the shadow side of your psyche, exposing it to the light, and then doing the deep, inner work to transform it (something that works probably all of the time) positive action? YES! YES! A THOUSAND TIMES YES!

But we, as a society, are now so deeply invested in The Bank of Positive Thinking that it has morphed into a “toxic positivity” that has a direct correlation to the creation of our cancel culture; and, has acted as a panacea for burying our heads in the sand around any number of personal or societal ills. What used to be up is now down, and vice-versa, and we’re expected to buy into it so as not to be labeled “negative”.

As my grandfather used to say, “Jesus Christ Almighty”.

Granted, I’m no expert on the workings of the Universe; at most, I’m a stalwart amateur metaphysician.

And I get it. What human being in their right mind wouldn’t want to glom onto such a seemingly-easy thing to do? I mean, no matter how shitty our circumstances and how active we remain in perpetuating them, we’re still creative beings who can easily muster up the energy to conjure up a positive thought.

There are, in fact, 12 Universal Laws, all of which work together synergistically. This means that you can’t just pluck out one (The Law of Attraction) and present it as the whole shebang.

My previous two articles were about FATE and DESTINY, vis a vis archetypal patterning. Consider that If your energy field, your thoughts, and your actions are driven by a past that is unreconciled and everything you do is driven by a team of inauthentic archetypes, how exactly can you expect to attract all the best of everything?

The answer is: you can’t. You simply cannot. And all the positive thinking and endless affirmations will never override one’s underlying, unexplored shadow consciousness which is what is actually running your show.

Here’s a simple metaphor: Have you heard the saying, “You can’t outexercise a bad diet?” In this example, strident, intense exercise (positive thinking and affirmations) will never, ever override an entrenched and dysfunctional archetypal system (your bad diet).

There is a palliative effect, I suppose, to positive thinking. A bandaid that can make you feel better for a couple minutes. And maybe you can manifest some things through sheer force of human will but those things simply will not last.

So now we’ve got a nation of fools running around thinking that all we have to do is think positively to get whatever we want, while meanwhile the country’s on fire.

So how do we walk into lives with new vitality and purpose?  We have to do the work – the hard work, the real work – of looking at what we were born into, what environment we came from, and who and what we became because of it.  It’s about looking at repeating, unworkable or self-destructive patterns of behavior and the suffering brought on by them, transforming them into our purpose. It’s about transmuting FATE into DESTINY.

We can bring out a magnifying glass and study the map that brought us to our present circumstances. If there are aspects of that map that still don’t suit the life you say you want to live, yet you refuse to do the work, you might expect to live fate and not destiny.  You can predict your future by looking to your past.

Here is the real “secret”: a transformed life experience doesn’t come from positive thinking, visualization, and daily affirmations. That’s all putting lipstick on a pig. Sure, you might feel better for a moment but there’s no way you’re ever going to transform anything in a deep and lasting way when you’re trying to build upon a faltering foundation.

Those who temporarily impose their will to change their circumstances are soon enough returned to their original state. A broke(n) homeless person who wins millions in the lottery eventually ends up right back on the street.

Your brain just isn’t going to buy it.

“I’m affluent in every area of my life.”

Meanwhile, you’re living hand-to-mouth, your health is crumbling, you’re worn out because you can’t say no, you’re overworked, your relationships are unfulfilling.

Well, just say a positive affirmation every time you look in the mirror. “I’m affluent in every area of my life.”

Uh -huh. Your brain just isn’t going to buy it.

If positive thinking would change our world circumstances, we could have that done by tomorrow morning.

The Law of Attraction is like trying to fish with no bait on your hook. It provides nothing long-lasting until you’ve righted your foundation and start taking authentic actions that support stepping into new archetypes.

We have to do the work.

And that’s all there is to it.


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